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The Beauty In The Meltdown

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What to do when it all falls apart when you least expect it…….

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Wearing BC The Label coral duster coat bought from The Iconic, Lucy In The Sky blouse (similar here), Nasty Gal denim shorts (similar here), Sophia Webster inspired heels, NARS Heatwave Lipstick

These photos were taken a few months ago during tulip season at Araluen Botanical Park.

I’ve had to wait until the weather was cool enough before I could post this outfit. It’s supposed to be autumn in Perth but it’s been feeling like summer….even in March. It’s finally starting to cool down at night now. This lightweight duster coat from BC The Label is the perfect transeasonal piece as it starts to cool. It’s way too light for winter but it’s the perfect cover up for cool nights in spring and autumn.

I bought this duster coat after seeing Jessica Alba rock this Narcisso Rodriquez coat. How amazing does the coral look against her olive complexion!

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Jessica Alba is going for a sophisticated New Yorker look here. I’ve decided to play with proportion and styled my duster coat with a matching blouse of the same colour and denim shorts from Nasty Gal. As for the shoes, I’ve chosen to to dress the look up with Sophia Webster inspired heels. I love how the coral trench contrasts with the shoe’s fushcia and green colours.

Confession

Most of the time, I am a very calm, stable and kept together person. But, all of last week, I was on an emotional roller coaster. My emotions were running so high and low all week and on Sunday at church, I ended up having a bit of a meltdown. I seriously lost my s***. I couldn’t stop crying….snot and all (nice one Jo!!)

And the worst part was that I could not explain why.

Why was this happening to me?

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“When a girl cries, it’s not usually over one thing. It’s built up anger and emotions that she’s been holding in for too long”.

IMG_8515Sometimes you just need a good cry. Even if you don’t know the reason why you’re crying.

A lot of the time, I have a lot of trouble expressing my feelings to friends and loved ones. I believe the term for this is called Alexithymia – the “inability to describe emotions verbally”. Most of the time, I suppress all my emotions in, feeling numb to any kind of pain.

A good friend told me that it is good to practice self awareness – which is not the same as being self absorbed. Looking within, I think I was getting really worn out by my blogging insecurities, stress at work, loneliness and other personal things. The honeymoon period of starting a new blog is over and now I feel the pressure that I should be better. But by whose standards?

Getting into the whole Instagram numbers game can be depressing at times. I see people unfollow me – some who have even met me in person and it started getting to me.

– Does my blog suck?

– Do I suck?

– Are people judging me right now?

– Why are my own friends not supporting me in this?

Wait. Time to step right back. I’m better than this. I should know better than to be looking for validation from others. After all, didn’t I start this blog as a platform for self expression and to remain true to myself? To share the things I love?

I’ve had to let go of what’s been consuming me – all that anger and my old ways of thinking. It’s time to be inspired and to fall in love again.

Taking it a day at a time for the challenges that await me…….along with the good that is coming too.

IMG_8505“Don’t forget that you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown. Just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”

IMG_8506“Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in awhile, so that we can see life with a clearer view again.”

 

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5 Comments

  • Reply
    Sita
    April 6, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    I love how your blog is not just: “here’s an outfit and here’s where you can get the pieces.”
    You know you always have me girl! 🙂

    • Reply
      JoAnn Goh
      April 7, 2016 at 9:18 am

      Thank you Sita! That really means a lot!!
      While I love fashion, I feel like talking about the clothes by itself is not enough.
      There is more to the clothes…….
      Really appreciate you!
      xoxo

  • Reply
    Juvy
    April 9, 2016 at 5:36 am

    Hi Joann,
    I do cry not knowing why sometimes too.
    It’s like thoughts come one after the other until you’re just overflowing with emotions and you don’t even know why you’re crying anymore. I don’t know you personally but we’re basically neighbours considering we’re both here in Perth. I hope I get to meet you one day. Remember it’s alright to cry but always know your worth. You are beautiful and don’t you doubt that. Never doubt yourself hun.

    xoxo

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    Sugar 'n' Spice
    April 13, 2016 at 2:53 am

    Hi beautiful Joann,
    Don’t ever feel down about yourself, you have done so many amazing things. You have been a good friend to many, you follow your views with passion, you work hard, you play hard, you love life. Sometimes, we just need some reason to vent, its ok to tell someone to F*** Off if they are being difficult. Don’t take thing personally, if the advise helps, take it on board, if it doesn’t just say thank you but no thank you 🙂

    Crying helps release tension in the emotional mind, and you need to let it out. This year is a difficult year of challenges, but eventually, they will pass, and you will reign supreme again. You are always protected, and you are always shown a path, do not let anyone or anything bring you down, keep doing what you love, if it succeeds well done, if it doesn’t learn from it and move on.

    You are the best forget the rest xoxoxo…

  • Reply
    Janine
    May 1, 2016 at 7:44 am

    You need to realise that it happens to us all and not to take it personally, although I even still have my moment after 6 years.

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